I have met a lot of people over the years in various ways and a variety of situations. Some of them I knew something about them straight away, the first conversation we had gave me some information and I knew enough to tell if I wanted anything more to do with them or not. In some cases it took a lot longer. People are complicated. Put two or more humans together and there are bound to be things that unite and things that seperate. The hope is the first outweighs the second. I hold my hands up, I have been wrong about people and in some cases, the end result was not pretty.
The preference for communication moving way from face to face or voice calls and into screens has led to some misunderstandings due to the lack of body language or the easiness of walking away. It’s harder to run after someone who was never physically beside you in the first place. The relationships we have online, where that is our only means of communication can be challenging. It is easy to fall into the trap of thinking the person on the other end knows where you are coming from and then be thrown when it it obvious they don’t. Sometimes that means the end of the relationship either temporarily or permanently. It still hurts, I have the wounds to prove it.
However, these relationships can be very supportive and very real. I have been lucky to make some real friends within these communities. I am very grateful for that. I feel challenged sometimes, but in a good way. I have learnt a lot about all sorts of subjects, about other people and also about myself. My friends have helped me through some difficult stuff and stood by me when I was difficult myself. I owe them a lot. I am not naming names, but I think, in most cases, they will know who they are. I just want to say thank you.